All About You FRIDAY – A Knowing Conversation

What if you could determine if your significant relationships would stand the test of time? In his book, The Relationship Cure, John Gottman describes working with thousands of couples through conflict. He stated if he spent 90 minutes interviewing them, he could predict to 95% accuracy if the couple would remain together. But if he only had 15 minutes, he could predict to 90% accuracy if they would last by having just one conversation:

“Tell me about the time you met…“

If the story was told with emotion and detail, if it included color, sights and senses, then most likely, the couple would survive the challenges they were facing. If the story was short or uninspired, the relationship would likely fail. Fascinating, isn’t it?

I first read this years ago and it has stuck with me. Think about it. Do you remember the day you met the one you love? What each of you were wearing? Where your first date was? The funny things that were said? It’s a story worth revisiting because the conversation breeds another story then another…and before you know it, you are reminded of a lifetime of things you love about them.

You fell for a reason. Sometimes you just need to be reminded why. So tell that story. Tell it to a friend or a family member or better yet…tell it to the one you love. And if I run into you in the real world, I’d like to hear it too.

It’s Friday and it’s been a long week. Don’t forget to celebrate.

Until next time…